A few questions
What do you do when:
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You accidentally have a sex dream about someone who is a good friend and a great guy but you find them physically repulsive?
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Someone you are friends with clearly doesn’t mind sharing, as long as it’s only things that are important to you (I don’t mean food etc) that are being shared?
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You realise you’re running out of time to do what you want to do?
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There’s a language you really hate but actually have to learn?
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You have the choice between two days in Brno or a day in Dresden?
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You keep being late for work, but don’t want to admit to your colleagues the exact reason why you’re finding it hard to get out of bed?
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The prospect of sex is so far in the distance you’re scared you’ll have forgotten how to do it?
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You go back on a decision you’ve made concerning someone else but you don’t have the balls to tell them?
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You can’t stop worrying about everything?
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September brings the promise of so many new challenges it’s a question of what to leave out?
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You can’t stop thinking about this horrendous sex-dream? (AAAArgh get away from me! Put the hat stand down!)
(I’m asking the blogosphere simply because none of these people read me!)
Also, does anyone have a suggestion for an easy to use software package or blog host that I can use to do some serious blog-pimping? Sick of blogsome, and also of my complete lack of skillz!
Meanwhile, in the real world, Plzeň is a nice place to spend a day, except for when you’re dressed for the sun and it starts raining! I’ve booked a hostel in Olomouc in two weeks’ time, I’ll be spending a couple of days there, and hopefully finding time to pop across to Brno and see a friend there. I have a mad idea for tomorrow. It involves going to Dresden… I’ve never been to Germany! Oh, and also I don’t speak much German. Maybe I’ll stun them with my Czech? Nah, maybe not! The only thing I can do wth any confidence in German is order cake! Hang on, actually, that’s all I need to do…
***UPDATE: I chose Brno! I’m getting up at 5! Going to the pictures now to watch Venus, will report back if it’s any good!***
Ahoj! The world is not only small, it’s also shrinking. I know one Czech person and she’s from Brno! I haven’t been there yet but I’d like to see where Mendel did his pea experiments.
Thank you for voting for my story. Your comment was so flattering, I had to read it ten times to be sure I wasn’t mistaken.
Comment by toby — August 10, 2007 @ 1:52 pm
Dear Despina, what do you do when you have an almost-sex dream about someone you’re acquainted with only via e-mail and blogging, and you’re old enough that the word “dotage” is starting to apply?
(And, yes, when the “running out of time” thing, too, is crushingly true?)
I. Don’t. Know. I try to get enough sleep; I have my morning iced coffee (people who get enough caffeine tend to commit suicide less); I try to breathe; I listen to Luigi Tenco (uh-oh, he committed suicide) and Leonard Cohen; I resolve to stop pretending with my friends that everything’s okay; I thank G-d for sending me what was, after all, a lovely dream.
I know this isn’t helpful, but it is real!
Thank you for sharing. Your travel plans sound glorious, and I wish you many wonderful adventures!
Comment by vilaine fille — August 10, 2007 @ 3:07 pm
♥ Sex dream - that’s all it is, a dream. I have VERY random dreams (not always about sex lol) and it’s just your head making sense of things. The fact that you mention sex later on here is a big indicator. You’re horny and your mind tells you who else you could be banging. Wouldn’t worry about it, though if it involves a hat stand, you may want to seek a little bit of treatment…
♥ Sharing…If it’s one-way, and that way is only you, then it’s not sharing, is it? Perhaps set a couple of boundaries if you think it could damage you, otherwise just try not to take it to heart.
♥ If you think you’re running out of time, take a big, deep breath. Then calmly work out how you’re going to do it all. I can promise that without being calm and relaxed to start off, you won’t get far trying to cram everything in!
♥ Never been to either Brno or Dresden. ‘Fraid I cannae help with that one. Though you seem to have sorted that…
♥ Only thing to do with bed/work, is to go to bed earlier, try all the relaxing techniques malarky (I speak of essential oils, cushions, relaxing music, baths etek.). And I know the getting out of bed is hard, but as soon as you get out of bed, the sooner you can start with your day, which turns out to not be half bad really. You have to force yourself, there is no easy way with that.
♥ Hah, sex. Yeah, really not qualified in that one, but I’m pretty sure you won’t forget how, and if you do…well, doesn’t that make the learning all the more fun?!
♥ Suck it up and tell them. It’s the decent thing to do, and if it was the other way round, you’d want to be in on it.
♥ Again, deep breath. Try to see the bigger picture (I know this sounds really patronising, but it’s the only way I ever got through) and the smaller things will eventually become just that - smaller.
♥ Ah yes, I know the feeling of thinking you’re going to have too much on! Well, work out which things are essential to your life (MUGSS included in that btw ;p), which would be nice, and which things really won’t make a difference in the long run. Lists. Make lists.
I know nothing of software. Not my forte.
Good at hugs :D xxxxxx
Comment by mags — August 10, 2007 @ 8:59 pm
Toby - Brno was cool.
Mags - your advice is very very sound. Lots of deep breaths, lists, and trying not to think about sex! Also, mornings and boundaries - yes, you’re right there!
Vilaine - was I good in your dream? Hope so ;) Sorry, I’m not trying to cheapen what you said. Enough of real-life friends are here and I’m feeling better just by being totally honest with them. I didn’t bring Father Leonard on holiday, however I did bring St Callas for the dark days and Santa Cecilia for when I need to feel better. If I’d brought Father Leonard I would probably have jumped off my balcony weeks ago.
Thank you all!
Comment by Me — August 11, 2007 @ 6:31 pm
I read somewhere that sex dreams rarely have anything to do with sex. It is a metaphor for something else. Apparently sex dreams usually involves snakes and things being drilled you get the idea. Or am I just thinking of a Monty Python film :-)With dreams you need a man who wears glasses, and tweed jackets with elbow patches (your average 70s university professor type) to interpret them. They can be so confusing and cryptic
Comment by sugar007 — August 11, 2007 @ 11:53 pm
Dearest Despina: I’m sure you would have been brilliant in the dream, but…
Father Leonard cheers me up, cheers me way up. Isn’t that odd? Like all the greatest kabbalists, he has a keen grasp of the shards-of-light-in-darkness thing, something that soothes me and gives me just enough hope to keep going.
Bonnes vacances, have glorious adventures! (Is anything on earth more full of smiles than Ceciliona singing “Pur dicesti, o bocca bella”? :-) :-) )
Comment by vilaine fille — August 12, 2007 @ 3:51 am
I wonder why that happens … that we have sex dreams about people we find repulsive when awake. Does it mean we actually fancy them or something deeper?
Comment by Stratfordgirl — August 12, 2007 @ 2:55 pm
Sugar - I don’t really go in for dream interpretation that much, I think it’s just my subconscious detoxing itself. Considering the strange thoughts my conscious mind is capable of coming up with, I dread to think what’s going on in the background there!
SG - just, no. No. Never!
Comment by missdespina — August 13, 2007 @ 12:15 pm
Vilaine - I like Leonard for that reason too. That things that are broken and damaged can still be beautiful without being whole. I also love Vincent Delerm for the tenderness and vulnerability he shows in his music.
I don’t have Santa Cecilia singing that aria, unless it’s one of the Gluck / Salieri / Prohibita ones I can’t recall the name of. That woman is so beautiful, I am in love with her. Just thinking about her singing Lascia ch’io pianga moves me. Last time I saw her, I burst into tears as soon as she came out onto the stage - and didn’t stop all night…
Comment by missdespina — August 13, 2007 @ 12:36 pm